Long held to be a somewhat taboo topic, the act of kissing or inserting one’s tongue in their partner’s anus has grown in popularity in recent years. Indeed, a recent survey in the US found that no less than 36% of women and 44% of men admitted to having performed it. Celebrities and high-profile rappers such as Nicki Minaj have sung its praises, it has been featured in magazines like Cosmopolitan and New York and it really hit the public limelight when it turned up in HBO’s TV series, Girls. As a sex act it may be as old as time but there is scant mention of it in historical records. In today’s fast-moving sexual climate, however, references to it can be found everywhere. Also known as ‘rimming’, ‘tossing salad’ and ‘motorbutting’ (man on woman), in Barcelona, they call it ‘el beso negro’ or ‘the black kiss’. Today we are going to explore the topic and offer readers some useful tips when it comes to this mysterious yet highly erotic activity.
Naturally, given the anus’ main function, hygiene is the first and foremost consideration if you want to add ‘the black kiss’ to your sexual repertoire. For starters, it is vital that the person receiving showers and cleans the entire area twice with soap or gel. If you want to go one step further, you can always have an enema. This is a good idea for two reasons. Firstly, it makes the act more palatable for the person performing tongue play in terms of the taste, smell and any possible bacteria present. Secondly, and equally importantly, it helps the receiver to relax and enjoy it since it eases any concerns they might have about cleanliness down there. Most effective of all, needless to say, is using a dental dam or even a condom cut longways. Placing this over your partner’s bum hole ensures absolute hygiene while guaranteeing that they still enjoy everything your tongue and lips are capable of doing to pleasure them. Lastly, it is important to point out what to do and what not to do after giving them a rim job. If you are performing it on a woman, make sure it the final thing you do as part of your sexual repertoire. In other words, do not perform oral sex on their vagina or, in the case of both sexes, kiss them on the mouth afterwards. For either person, it is advisable to brush one’s teeth and rinse using mouthwash before returning to bed and continuing with your sex session.
Now we have got the practical part out of the way, it is time to talk about different techniques to make the act as erotically charged as possible. As we have pointed out so often here in the blog, consent on behalf of both people taking part is vital. Once both of you have agreed to experiment, you can enjoy going through the preliminary stages so that you create the right kind of atmosphere. After all, the more relaxed you feel, the more pleasure you’re likely to experience. Start off by exploring their body in other ways in order to awaken their libido and set their skin tingling. A good way is to begin furthest away and work your way towards the goal. A flavoured massage oil or lubricant can come in handy here. Gently massage, squeeze, lick and kiss their bum cheeks and inner thighs. Tease the area around the anus using your fingers, lips and mouth. Breathe softly over their bottom to tantalise them. Work your way to their anus bit by erotic bit, paying special attention to areas such as the perineum, behind the balls/the base of the vagina and their tailbone.
There are no set rules when it comes to how you use your tongue. Experiment with different shapes, movements, pressure and tongue shapes. First time round, take it slow, experimenting with a few moves and watching closely how your partner reacts, especially their body language, breathing and vocal sounds. If you have both talked about penetration, you can go a little deeper. Try poking your tongue into their anus just a little (don’t forget that dental dam). Only the first few centimetres are sensitive, so it you do not need to go far.
You can choose to explore this exciting area of sex with your partner at home, or experiment in the company of one of Barcelona Escort’s highly experienced top-class escorts (to find out which of them are open to this form of sexual play, just check first with the agency’s director, Laura). Whatever you do, it is sure to be an unforgettable experience and one that may open up a whole new world in your sexual repertoire.
