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Female desire and its absence – the mystery goes on

Female desire and its absence – the mystery goes on

The question of what exactly turns women on is one that has been on men and women’s minds for as long as humans have walked the earth. Is women’s desire, or as is often the case, a lack of it, physical or a result of psychological and social factors? This hot topic has been the subject of much research in recent years. Just defining what desire is is no easy task, yet alone working out how to boost it. Today we will be looking at how things stand in the ongoing search to define desire in women and treat low libido.

A lack of libido, or female sexual dysfunction, is believed to affect anywhere from 10-40% of adult women in the Western world. Worse still, it is both the cause and result of far-ranging effects including anxiety (even just thinking about sex), sadness, shame, embarrassment, a feeling of disconnection from their own bodies, and, ultimately, damage to their personal relationships. Finding a way out of this self-reinforcing negative cycle is obviously not easy in a hypersexual society that loves to portray women as perpetually wanton, and where image is all.
Scientists have experimented with hormones such as testosterone (increasing levels of the male hormone in women appears to have little if any influence on desire) and, most recently, flibanserin (commonly and erroneously known as the “female Viagra”.
Flibanserin, or to use its tradename, Addyi, works by decreasing serotonin and increasing dopamine, thus changing the levels of the neurotransmitters held to decrease or increase desire, respectively. Disappointingly, results have so far shown to be inconclusive. However, laboratory tests on other animals with similar brains to humans do demonstrate that female mammals’ sexuality can be either hugely enhanced or practically nullified by direct stimulation of neurotransmitters. Could it be that failure to achieve the same results with women suggests that social conditioning dampens their instincts?

Female desire and its absence – the mystery goes on
On the other side are psychologists and social scientists. They maintain that women’s desire is essentially a subjective experience that depends on a wide range of social, emotional, and contextual factors. These include stress, anxiety, low perception of body image, relationship problems, or even monogamy itself. They argue that while a lack of libido might concern women, it is more of a socio-cultural creation than a medical disorder. Rather than women possessing a generalised desire for sex, they become turned on by external stimuli or the urge for something other than physical gratification, such as emotional closeness, a sense of doing their duty—or even simply the desire to feel desire.

Furthermore, it is clear that women’s desire for sex is closely connected to the stage they are at in their menstrual cycle. During ovulation, when women feel most horny, their sexual motivation equals that of men. Thus, it is not so much that women have lower sexuality than men do, but that what turns them on is much more variable. A participant in medical trials in the USA compiled the following list of things that had helped her in times of low libido: her boyfriend, changing boyfriends, chocolate, coffee, buying a new vibrator, pornography, the phrase ‘I love you,’ reading erotic books, a removable showerhead, tips from her girlfriends, sleeping well, and not being judged by her lovers, friends, or society in general.

Female desire and its absence – the mystery goes on

One promising line of research examines how desire is rooted in women’s mental state. Since many women claim to feel “disconnected” from their own bodies, mindfulness— the Buddhist practice of nonjudgmental awareness—has been successfully used to help them become more aware of their own bodies. By applying its skills to their sex lives, women can get closer in touch with what in their surroundings excites them and how their bodies respond to it. That puts them in the position to feel empowered about making changes to their lives and developing desire within their relationships.

Desire and excitement in women are clearly based on so many factors that go way beyond the merely physical. In the end, there is no one right path to experiencing desire or arousal. Research into both fields continues and it may prove that there is no single magic pill in the end; rather, a combination of drugs that target the mechanisms of the brain’s reward system, therapies and an increase in our understanding of the many subtle non-physiological aspects involved may be the keys to finally unlocking this eternal enigma. In the meantime, here at Barcelonaescorts, our young ladies are just waiting to give you a true girlfriend experience that will exceed all your expectations of female desire.



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