Sexual Wellbeing: Key Points for a More Pleasurable Sex Life
It’s no secret that our mood and emotional wellbeing are deeply connected to our sex life. A fulfilling sexual relationship doesn’t just feel good — it also strengthens connection, boosts self-esteem, and can improve overall happiness.
But… how do you know if you’re doing it “right”? How can you feel more confident and make your partner feel as desired as you want to feel?
In this article, we’ll share key points supported by sexual wellbeing research that can help you create more pleasure, intimacy, and satisfaction.
Intuition, Seduction and Eroticism: The Foundation of Desire
Sexual pleasure is not only physical — it’s also mental and emotional. Intuition, seduction and eroticism play an essential role in creating anticipation and excitement.
Sometimes, the most intense part of sex starts long before the bedroom: in the way you look at each other, speak, touch, and suggest.
A Quick Look at Different Sexualities
Sexuality is diverse, and desire doesn’t look the same for everyone. Understanding this makes relationships healthier and more respectful.
Polyamorous People
Polyamory means having the capacity to love more than one person, in a consensual and transparent way, where everyone involved agrees.
Asexual People
Asexuality is when a person feels little or no sexual attraction. Some asexual people may still want emotional or romantic relationships — and it’s important to understand that asexuality is not a “problem” and does not automatically relate to mental health.
(This is a rich topic and could easily deserve its own dedicated article.)
Bisexual People
Bisexual people feel attraction to more than one gender.
Pansexual People
Pansexuality describes attraction to a person regardless of their gender identity — meaning attraction is mainly based on the person themselves, not their gender.
Heteroflexible People
Heteroflexibility describes people who mostly identify as heterosexual but may occasionally feel attraction outside that norm.
Pleasure Is Universal: What Everyone Has in Common
Regardless of orientation or relationship style, there’s one common goal: enjoying sex and deepening connection.
And yes — when it comes to sex, it’s not about having “no limits”, but about having healthy guidelines that help pleasure grow naturally.
Key Guidelines for Better Sex (Science-Backed and Realistic)
1) The Position: Variety Creates Connection
Yes, positions matter — not because you need to be an expert, but because variety can help you discover what feels best and keep desire alive.
- Be playful and creative
- Explore slow vs. intense rhythm
- Change angles to find what works best
Say What You Want
Confidence is sexy. Speak up about what you like, and invite your partner to do the same. Clear communication builds trust, and trust increases pleasure.
2) The Location: Break the Routine
Routine kills adrenaline. Changing the environment can bring back excitement quickly.
Try new spaces like:
- The kitchen
- The hallway
- The bathroom
Small details can completely change the mood:
- Candles
- Music
- Lingerie or a sensual outfit
- A surprise moment (planned or spontaneous)
This isn’t about acting — it’s about discovering what you’re capable of and sharing it.
3) Communication: The Most Underrated Aphrodisiac
Knowing your body is essential, but sharing that knowledge is what transforms sex into something unforgettable.
Talk about:
- What you love
- What you’re curious about
- What you dislike
- What you don’t want to repeat
Feeling your partner’s pleasure — hearing it, seeing it — naturally increases desire and intimacy. When someone knows they’re making you feel good, they usually want to give you even more.
4) No Obsession: Stop Chasing the Orgasm
Orgasms are wonderful — but pressure blocks pleasure.
If your mind becomes obsessed with “I need to climax now”, you disconnect from your body and from the moment.
Instead:
- Relax
- Stay present
- Focus on sensations (not the goal)
- Let your pleasure unfold naturally
Sometimes, the longer the build-up… the better it gets.
5) Zero Myths: Pleasure Has No Rules
You don’t need to memorize the Kama Sutra to be good in bed.
What matters is:
- Respect
- Curiosity
- Trust
- Authentic desire
Forget the Old Judgments
“If you enjoy sex, you’re easy.”
That’s outdated and toxic.
No shame. No guilt. No fear of being judged.
Desire is natural. Pleasure is natural.
And you don’t need to lose your essence to be passionate — you only need to allow yourself to feel free.
Final Thought: Be Passionate, Stay Yourself
Don’t hold back because of fear, myths or insecurity.
Be bold. Be present. Be honest.
Sex is a powerful form of connection — and when it’s built with trust, communication and playfulness, it becomes one of the most satisfying experiences in life.
